Five strategies to bust through obstacles
John Geringer and Misty Bandimere-Jordan coach the expert network team. Understand your Triple G: God Given Gifts. Get your focus. Know your “Why?”. Think big–bigger than you think. Set goals, write them down, and take action.
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Welcome to today's podcast. I am so excited. We're going to continue our conversations with John Garinger and Mindy Vandermeer. Did I get the whole name right this time? Very important. We've got Jeff Krumendyke from OneDigital here. How are you, Jeff? Good. Thanks for having us. And Nathan Merrill, right on time, as always.
And Jeff, how is the world on the west side? It's more mild and Yes, it's very nice. Look at the snowfall that we have here. When you guys got dumped on, we got half an hour of snow in the morning and then it was sunny. Boring. Way too easy. Life out there. It's like you're already retired.
I've said recently that if migration went west to east, Grand Junction would be Denver. Yeah. The only reason that people wouldn't choose Grand Junction is you had to cross the Rockies to get there. Too much snow. Too much snow. I'm so excited to talk about obstacles. We've got an obstacle crusher with us.
Yes Today's topic is just gonna be awesome. We're really excited to learn about it We were talking about just before we started today and you've got five big ideas to lay out with us and you've got three guys who Remember you from the early days and sometimes Some of us will give you a hard time. Was it when he had hair?
No, I don't think we even knew. I don't think we even knew.
They didn't know. But I guess we don't have time for a joke, so it's just a joke. Go ahead. I love it. I am, I am, I prefer the men who are like myself, optically impaired, but It's just because our brains are so big, right? We're just radiating knowledge. Carl, as my dad said, you can't grow grass on a busy street.
I love it. Yeah, good. I think what what's awesome is that our last podcast that we, we did with John and Mindy, we in essence I think felt like we as advisors would maybe some advice. He alluded to the strategies, right? And we're gonna sit here and let John do his thing.
We would love to just do a little bit of a overview of the five strategies that you would typically approach a advisor that's Looking to in essence accomplish a goal and do it quicker and really one in which Could expect to see some results if they engage with you. So Here we are.
I don't know if there's any other better way to get you know Maybe 15 minutes of free consulting, but I thought that's it. Let's do it. And so we're going to turn These two loose and just give us an overview of what we could expect. Sounds good. And as you guys know, we're never successful by ourselves.
As Jim Rohn would say, it's hard to find a rich hermit. So of course, Mindy and I work together to help advisors who serve the ultra high net worth, help them see and achieve a bigger future than they've ever imagined possible faster. So what Mindy and I thought we'd share today are five strategies to bust through obstacles and meet your full potential.
So this is what the Mormons did when they moved from east to west. Nate, they busted through. Do you know anything about the Mormons? Yeah, I know a little bit. Yeah. It's called family history, but they were also busting through with a gun at their back. So it's their force. It's a little bit different.
Sometimes life is like that. My great grandfather passed or crossed the plains at nine years old driving a team of oxen with his widowed mother. So they busted through a lot, but I think that talks about when we overcome those challenges, we grow. And that's, John, what you're talking about is people growing through their overcoming their obstacles or challenges, what stands between them and their ultimate objective or goal, which in our case was the desert when the Mormons crossed the plains.
But what's other people's deserts? Yeah the number 1 thing that I don't know, I'm sure there's 1 out there that does, but if you think of higher education, I don't know of an institution that teaches this that 1st of all, what Dan Solomon would call working your unique ability. I call it triple G, or many and I call it triple G leads to triple E.
And what we mean by that is that nobody has the same fingerprints. So me growing up from third grade for a long time being inauthentic If carl was successful, I would try to emulate carl, but i'm not carl That is not a good game plan for being successful. I need to be me Who god created me to be so triple g is working in your god given gifting because Proverbs 12 18 if you think of proverbial wisdom proverbs 12 18 says a man's Gift will make room for him and bring him before great men.
And I believe it's the same for women, too Everybody's gifted. So you have to first start with like we're literally Not serving ourselves if we don't start to understand our own unique ability And a question to start with on that is if you could do one activity That would motivate and fascinate you the rest of your life.
What would it be? So carl? If you could do one activity that would motivate and fascinate the rest of your life, what would it be? Man, mountain climbing, hiking, just getting out there. I love that. Cool. Nathan, I've asked you this question before. Designing the solutions, designing advanced tax strategies, I think is those are the problems.
Exactly. Exactly. How about you making people feel valued? Yeah. Okay, so you have to start with your uniqueness because everybody's unique. So I used to try to emulate other people. You can be successful. However, you will never meet your full potential with that strategy. So that's number one. And it's, let me finish it out.
When you work in your God given gifting, triple G. It leads to you doing things that are number one easy. They're easy for you. They're energizing for you. They're not a battery drainer and you're really effective at it. Why is it easy? Because God created you to do it. Why is it energizing? Because God created you to do it.
And why are you effective at it? Because God created you to do it. So it's so simple. But I was trained, I was raised by a dad who grew up in World War II, and he grew up in the Depression and was a World War II vet. He taught me to work hard, which is great. Working hard is great. However, when you work in your God given gifting, your unique ability, it's not hard work.
You know what it makes me think of is And this may sound a little bit harsh, but we're one thing we're often Or we've been taught and I think it's still a mantra among folks Is that you can do anything you want Like you can be anybody you want you can do anything you want And I think what I hear you saying is well that may be true It may not be good for you to be what you aren't Inherently designed to be that you'll be a better you if you just You Maybe turn a little inward and discover yourself before you say I want to be president of the united states You may not actually want to be president.
Could you be yes But should you be is a different question, right? Is it going to be literally work? That is actually energizing for you actually enjoy doing so you might still be effective But what if it's a battery drainer? I mean I think of the bumper sticker, Work is a I think of one one saying that work is a four letter word, right?
It's a bad word. It's not a bad word, right? Especially if you're doing something that you were created to do. Everybody's created for a purpose. Or, I owe, so off to work I go. Or work with what I do so I can play on the weekends. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. And it's when we work in our unique ability, or as Dave Shepard, who I work with says, Your highest utility.
Your highest utility. So that's number one. Triple G leads Tripoli. And then number two, from a standpoint of focus. So where your focus goes, this is, I learned this from Tony Robbins, where your focus goes, your energy flows, where your focus goes, your energy flows. So we get to choose what we focus on.
And if you don't know it, if you start your day off, watching the media, if you watch normal news. News is there. How do they make their money selling advertising? They know that they're going to best sell advertising if 95 percent of what they talk about is negative and or fear based. And only 5 percent is positive.
Is that really what you want to start your day with? You want to focus on all that's going on in the world, all the negative things that you can't even control, right? So where your focus goes, your energy flows. So what are you going to focus on a daily basis? And it should be something that's actually motivating and fascinating to you that you want to achieve, that you want to have a difference.
And that leads into number three, which is knowing your why. You want to talk about why a little bit? Yeah, your big why is what gets you out of bed in the morning. It doesn't matter if you have enough money to do it or not. That's just, it's who you are, right? And Oh, what is his name? He is from three to five.
Alan Weingartner, right? And he's from the three to five community. I don't know. I'm sure you guys have heard the quote, right? He knew his Y when his Y had him. And I've gone through big Y, I don't even know how many times. And it wasn't actually intelligent. This year that I realized what my why is and my why is serving from abundance, because that goes to my personal life.
It goes to my spiritual life. It goes to my work life. It just crosses everything. And so your big why is just, it can go into every aspect of your life. And it's what's you. And it's a big why is a goal that you can never check off. So it's never completed So your big why is to help people discover their potential and find ways to achieve it and it did to your point Take me years to get there because I was a little bit of you like My why was who I wanted to project to people who I thought I wanted to be not who I really was Yeah, and so I had to like chip away at it bit by bit until one day similarly I'm, just like this is easy for me to say because It's authentic.
It's me. That's really what drives me through all aspects of family, church, and work. So yeah. And we can't check it off. Can't check it off. And you can't check it off. And like Mindy said, it can be personal or professional. So it can be your own children if you're helping them discover their potential and find ways to achieve it, right?
But it can also be attorneys that you mentor, or associates that you mentor, or clients, right? It can be anybody. And in a Y, if you think of a flame, there's a blue part of the flame, you guys know what I'm talking about, right? That's the hottest part of the flame. So your Y is literally like Mindy said, like it energizes you.
My wife's a night owl. I get up at about 3 in the morning, sometimes my wife's just coming to bed. But, if you woke me up at midnight, which I should be well into a deep sleep. So what's your big why? I would tell you to see in it, help people see and achieve a bigger future than they ever imagined possible faster, right?
That energizes me, and if you have a midnight, it would energize me and yours would energize you. Yeah, so that's the third one. And then for is think big. If you think about it, I think we get one chance on Earth, right? Yep. And if you think about 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, begin with the end in mind.
One of the reasons that Big Why is so important is because the difference that you intend to make But what if for you, Nathan, to help people discover their potential and find ways to achieve it, if you weren't intentional about that, you said I just want to help people. And it's I want to help, but at the end of your life, you help 10 people.
I know you're capable of more, so think big. How many people do you want to help? What kind of impact do you want to have that conversation? That might be something to talk about. Yeah, I haven't really explored the depth of what my why has to be for me to feel. Like I've met my potential. Yeah but I would just say think big and this is part of where your focus goes your energy flows because from a standpoint of be intentional be thoughtful think big and I just know from experience with my growing up with us in a household that has scarcity mindset versus an abundant mindset and grow up inauthentic and now from a standpoint of things that You know I would have never imagined that I would have achieved, haven't achieved, but it comes from number one, you can never be successful by yourself, first and foremost.
So it's other people helping me, right? And mentoring me and coaching me and working with me. And then from a standpoint of, it's actually going after things. And in 1 Corinthians 2, 9, it says, what no eye has seen and what no ear has heard and what the human mind has conceived, the things God has planned for you.
For those who love him. And it's like abundance, like big. So think big. So think big goals. And then, so that's number four. And then number five, have goals. , decide what you want and write it down. Because statistically you are somewhere between, depending on the statistics, you look at somewhere between 35 and 40% more likely to achieve a goal.
Just by writing the goal down. Yeah, just by writing the goal down. So you're almost. Depending on the study, you're almost 50, you're at least a third of the way there and almost 50 percent just by writing the goal down and then in smart goal fashion, which smart is an acronym for be specific about the goal is make sure it's measurable, achievable.
Now, it doesn't, if we said. A second, we're going to make 10 million. That's probably achievable, right? But make it achievable results based. What's the result you want in this example? I said, I think 10 million and then time based put an actual Deadline on it on when you intend to achieve it because everybody works better deadline So those are five things that we know from experience Mindy and I in helping advisors and helping entrepreneurs help them bust through obstacles that are holding them back That's awesome.
I'm ready to go, baby. Are you? Oh, yeah. Tired out? You ready for the next chapter? This is great. And just circling back to the coaching side because you mentioned how you used to listen to the books on tape. Yeah, and, I have the audible and I've read all these books going back to even think and grow rich where some of these principles are laid out in that.
But the value in bringing what, to be true into the coaching context helps with that. It's almost like putting your hands on it rather than just. Hearing it, you are doing it in real time. And you're learning and applying principles that, to be true, but you're not like, totally replying having someone like you to help say.
And I forget the phrase you always use is, have you considered, or I invite you to consider invite you to consider because you're basically just read. Thank you. Surgically dialing in on these are the principles you need to focus on in this instance where I'm losing the forest for the trees you know that's a perfect example of like we can go over these concepts right here and someone could review them Over and over again, but sometimes it takes a coach to help you say Right now with this problem you're having I invite you to consider That this could be something you need to attend to Yeah and also something that for our pro you group that we always ended, right?
And it's results come from implementation. Go implement because also you could read all those books and not implement a single thing. You aren't going to get any further. It's a great point. It's a huge point because yeah. Yeah, big point. And Nathan, you've given many and I permission to where you're like, Hey, look, if you know what I need to do don't just keep asking me questions.
Just tell me what I need to do. But that's Nathan. Not everybody's like that, but that's also in working. And, for years we've worked together in a coaching relationship and from a standpoint of, so you're like, Hey, I want to get there fast. Just tell me what I need to do.
And I'll go do it and I'll go execute results come from implementation. Yeah, there's going to be some value in. Walking somebody down that road as well, as opposed to just giving him all the answers. I know Nate wants the answers and he'll go ahead and implement it, knowing your heart, knowing that, he trusts you.
But I, you probably also. Would be better to have that person land on it themselves Then there's then they're bought in right as opposed to trying to convince them that this is what they need to do so correct a tight rope to walk i'm sure as coaches and just there's a lot of trust there too Because I know john doesn't know the answer to every question Sometimes we do get into a dialogue where he's Help me understand this better and we walk through it and as we walk through it the answer starts to You know Come to the surface where either it's my head trash or additional information we need or whatever, but just john asking me to explain it to him.
Sometimes is that walk down that path. Yeah, right talking out loud and yeah, you know collaborating I'll be like I got this problem. He said help me. Let's walk it back. Let's walk through it and that's the squid on the face. Yeah, sometimes we need to address the squid on your face Before we can ever get to the next one.
Not a real squid. Not a real squid. No. I actually used that phrase the other day, so I was like, what? Yeah, you have to give somebody the visual, which is, a squid and octopus. So imagine if an octopus with its, tentacles just literally wrapped itself around your head. That's all you can see.
So when we say. What's the squid on your face? It's literally, I just can't see anything except for this and we're never from a, Mindy and I are never going to help anybody get where they intend to go if we can't literally, one by one, remove that squid off their face Oh, now I see this, right?
Yeah, that's great. Yeah, but you're right a lot of times that the answers are inside like, you know the answer and it's just a matter of again Mindy and I are flying above the forest. You're in your forest And so just asking you questions and then all of a sudden you start to realize and go. Oh wait Okay here and you start to get the clarity.
So we just help you a lot of times help you get clarity That's great. Yeah Very good. Thank you guys. This was awesome. Little workshop intensive here. I'm going to go work on my planner. I'm like a flower. There's no test with me.
If we could just bottle John's energy, however, you said energy. And I just want to say again, because that's in my unique ability, right? It's in my unique ability. So helping people see and achieve a bigger future than they ever imagined possible faster, like that drives me, so that's why there's energy there.
If you wanted me to talk about, I don't know, something I'm really not good at, like completing paperwork. I was going to say filing. Filing? I'm better at filing than completing paper. Completing paper is a major battery drainer for me, yeah, online, but like you're the master of the process. Oh, without a doubt.
Yeah, totally. Totally. It goes back to what energizes you is where you should build your life around those things. John certainly practiced what he preaches there. So awesome. Thank you, brother. Appreciate your heart. I can just, I just love being by you and and also just, yeah, just bringing us back to really who we are and who God created us to be.
I just think it's amazing to hear from the truth. The word and have our lives connected in that way. So thanks, man. I sure love you. It's good to see you All right listeners. This was a special. Session of reunion of sorts Yeah, a little bit of a reunion. We gotta do this more often, but Hope you guys enjoyed it as much as the three of us did And thank you guys again for coming.
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